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INTRODUCTION
Modern etiquette made easy by Myka Meier is a comprehensive read. It gives you practical tips to enhance your etiquette foundation in the modern world.
The book's theme details :
The basic foundation of etiquette
How to cultivate the right mindset
Developing your personal brand
Art of charisma/charm
Social polishing.
Myka details her 5 step Meier process that looks into how to transform yourself, attract the type of people and life you desire, develop confidence by feeling empowered and how to thrive socially by intentionally practising new habits.
About the Author
Myka Meier is known as "America's Queen of Good manners" by Times Magazine.
After receiving a degree in communications in the United States, Myka moved to London where she had two years' experience working on a global endeavour initiated by His Royal Highness The Prince of Wales.
She's also attended Swiss finishing school and trained in London under a former member of the Royal Household staff of her Majesty the Queen.
Myka is the co-founder of the Plaza Hotel Finishing Program with Beaumont Etiquette and has been featured across global media including The Today Show, The New York Times, Good Morning America, People, Time and Vogue Magazines.
Who is this Book for?
Any woman who's interested in entering high society and wants to polish up her social image. This book is what she'll need to perfect etiquette.
This book will dispel any etiquette myths you had giving you a whole new perspective on social elegance.
6 GOLD NUGGETS
#1. Etiquette is about people
Myka explains that etiquette is much more than how you hold a fork and knife, the dazzling dress or fancy jewellery.
It’s about making people feel great when they're around you. By being respectable, considerate and warm. Your look is an added bonus.
The author says that etiquette is still very relevant. She emphasises that we need this social skill now more than ever before because society is changing.
As a result of the digital age, people aren’t relating to each other.
Therefore etiquette enhances a person's social and emotional intelligence.
Myka states that it's something that can be practised by all, not just the wealthy or 1%.
#2. Etiquette makes you charismatic
Myka says that one may think that if they know all the rules, eat in a posh way, perfect their poise and is well dressed, then she has good etiquette. That's a mistake.
One can have all that but if you aren’t friendly then you have poor etiquette.
The author says that once you undergo the transformation to polish yourself, you’ll attract the people and the life you want.
As a result, you'll become charismatic making you attractive.
Myka emphasises that attraction isn’t about how pretty you look, it’s about the energy you possess and how you make people feel.
To attract what you desire, your mindset must be in the right state.
Charismatic people stand out as they put others first. They make an effort to connect and build rapport with other people.
Confidence is a big factor in being charismatic. It's what you project to the world.
Confidence changes from day to day. However, Self-esteem is deeply rooted and less volatile.
Your Charisma is what will make you stand out and be different from other people.
This is displayed through your body language, voice, posture and facial gestures.
#3. Your Personal brand is important
Ladies, dress the way you want to be addressed-Myka Meier
Myka explains that how you package yourself is important. It impacts first impressions with people when networking in social or formal events.
The author states that you’re a personal brand and are in charge of positioning and marketing yourself.
To present your personal brand, one has to decide what they want and put it in action.
To learn polished dressing and grooming, one must know what works for their body.
Myka's point is one needs to look for good quality investment pieces and dress for the position they aspire to be in.
According to the author, dressing is a mindset. If you dress when you’re happy, listening to your favourite music, you’ll automatically be happier. Happy people are charming.
The goal is to be elegant and sophisticated with a twist of fun.
Your personal brand is your mark. Therefore, you must look your best all the time. It’ll boost your spirit making you feel fabulous.
#4.Dining etiquette
The author acknowledges that the best way to learn is through action in the real world.
Dining etiquette is the next level of etiquette education.
When it comes to formal dining etiquette, the way you carry yourself, body placement, pacing of food and personal grooming is key.
Myka's definition of Dining Basics:
Good table manners are important because it shows we respect people around us.
Manners makes us able to have a good conversation, entertain, be social and enjoy ourselves.
The less noise you make, cutlery, glasses and phone, the better.
When confused, follow the lead of the host. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
She explains that the main goal of a host is to make guests feel welcome, comfortable and happy.
Yummy cooking, music, beautiful setup and the biggest smile are some of the things that will put your guests at ease.
In order to be a great dinner guest always show up with a gift, dress to impress and show gratitude to the host by saying thank you.
#5.practise until it becomes natural
Lastly, Myka emphasises that mastering etiquette is about putting what you’ve learnt into practice.
She says you can do this by getting out of your comfort zone and attending social events.
The author states that be it personal presentation, confidence, charisma, personal branding, networking or dining, one needs to practise until it becomes second nature.
This is what will eventually make you thrive in your new look.
According to her, social polishing as a whole is an art that can be learned, practised and mastered by all.
Conclusion
Myka concluded by saying that the skills learnt in her book should be used all the time and not only for special occasions.
She encourages people to try out their new voice, new look or energy, in all their day to day situations and with all people that you encounter.
The author emphasises on being kind and respectful to everything, everyone and all living things that surround you.
According to Myka, that's the best form of etiquette as its uplifting and spreads joy and makes others feel great!
Action Plan
Open up your mind towards etiquette.
Become amicable towards people
Learn to dress to the Nines and always have a statement piece
Get out of your comfort zone and go out for formal dinners and social events
Be confident
Personal Take
I really enjoyed this read, especially how Myka has formulas which are short and memorable for almost all her approaches towards etiquette. She calls them MYKAISM's.
This makes it easy to remember and apply her approach towards your situation
This book is perfect if you:
Are ready to elevate your personal life experiences
Want to be different from the old you; more elegant, sophisticated, confident and charismatic
Desire to learn A-Z about social polishing
Are ready for change
Rating: 4.5/5
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